MORE DISCO PSYCHOLOGY
MARCH 2003

OK, Rodney. Let's chat. You and I have talked about dancing with each 
other and others on Saturday night. My girlfriend, Sela, does not come 
every week. I've been dancing with her longer than I've been dancing with 
you. There's no reason to act jealous over anyone I choose to dance with. 
Do you hear me object when you want to dance with someone else? No. Sela 
and her boyfriend, Deon, usually come together. Leon can't dance; he has a 
walking impairment. He comes to support her and wants her to have fun 
dancing with her girlfriends, since he can't. He has to sit all night and 
just watch. Sela likes to dance with me and vice versa. We always dance 
together some during the night; she has her other girlfriends she likes to 
dance with, too. She likes to dance in the cage and wants me to go up with 
her; she doesn't like the cage alone, even though I encourage her to dance in 
it alone. Whatever. Just remember, Rodney, I'm there on Saturday nights to 
dance with you if you're there, alone, in groups, and with my other 
girlfriends. I only see all of you on Saturday nights. Please don't think 
you own me at Oceans and please don't dominate my time. I really enjoy 
dancing with you. I don't think that dancing with Sela and going up to 
the cage with her was impolite; that's just the way Oceans is. I could see 
you being upset if we were dancing slow or just the two of us and she pulled 
me away, but she didn't. The four of us were dancing. She and I went into the 
cage when it became empty. That's what we do every time we dance together. 
Nothing unusual about that. You just didn't see us leave; you had your eyes 
closed. We just dance a couple/three songs and then come back out. If you 
and Tom choose to dance with others in the meantime, that's OK. You can 
just turn and dance with the other girls around you. They'll accept you. 
Jeffery chose not to dance with me last Saturday. That's OK. I'll chat with 
him on Saturday night if I get the chance. I need to smooth his feathers, 
too. Sorry you left upset. Sela danced with her other girlfriends when 
we came out of the cage, since she wasn't with Deon. I walked around, went 
to the bathroom, and then sat down and talked with Tanya while Frank danced 
by himself. Please get over some of this stuff you're going through and 
concentrate on having fun again on Saturday nights. Please come this week. 
I will dance with you. Maybe not all night, but as much as I'm available. 
Please invite Tom, too. We need to include him in our little circle. He 
needs to get out. It usually takes me a while to get to know a guy and 
become attracted to him. He didn't seem very interested in me, so I backed 
off. I go to Oceans to dance, not be picked up. I was interested in 
getting to know Tom more until you told me he's only separated and not 
divorced. I don't go out with married or separated or guys who have 
girlfriends or who are living with someone in a relationship. Not worth the 
hassles. I'd rather be by myself. No hurt that way. Maybe Tom can pick 
up one of the little girls at Oceans. I still wouldn't mind going out for 
breakfast with him and chatting after Oceans on a Saturday night. Are you 
game for that idea, or would you just like me to ask Tom? Nothing 
definite, just asking.

Martha